Is it possible to live the rest of your adult life single? Thoughts?

I am around 23 and I have never been in a serious relationship before. I have gone on dates with a few men but that doesn't really count. And I have never actually been pursued to be in a serious relationship til this date. Is that embarassing? I see 15-20 year olds going around in public expressing/saying how much they love their significant other. And I feel is emptiness, loneliness. All this isolation from having a relationship is really getting to me. I don't feel like I want to find a man in my life anymore and that I want to stay single for the rest of my life. I don't wanna hear the "there's plenty of fish in the sea" or "he will be there when the time is right", etc... speeches. It doesn't work for everybody! Has anybody here who is MUCH OLDER than me(around35-60 or more) been single all their life? How does that feel? I might change my mind in the very FAR future...but I don't know right now.

Public Comments

1. I would say it is fun till you are about 60 then you need a partner to help with your infirmities
2. I have a cousin that has been single all his life....he's never been interested in a relationship.......and he's VERY happy....or at least is on the outside.......
3. It doesnt feel to good at all
4. yes u can thats why there are adult stores (think about it)
5. I'm sure its sad because you'll never have anyone to share your life with and you'll never have kids (unless you adopt or something) But I guess there are benefits. Being single will help you advance your career and won't tie you down or anything.
6. i haven't been single all my adult life but for most of it and it is some times lonely
7. Nope, not easily nor happily. So give up on that foolish thought, girl! Let yourself be in serous relationships, till you find the right guy! Every one is different and love is different every time. I have been single all my life, yes = and I hate that fact. I don't want to be single any more. I want get married, have sex, become a father and I want to do it while I can still work. IN fact I want to do it, while still in my 40s. There' s no reason I shouldn't be allowed to!
8. stoop looking and don't worry bout it,then you will find love, you can't make it happen
9. personally I think no, I've just been/am still going through a rough break up-i'm 18 next month and already feel so empty, when things get tough I know i've got my mates but sometimes that aint enough, having her around just gave me that extra bit of energy I needed, now I'm half empty and am searching but in the meantime I'm learning so much that I didn't previously know about myself, so its really a double edge soward. please for your own sake don't stay single the rest of your days. you'll only end up feeling like I do know, sad, lonely and depressed. hope this helps you in your endevours.
10. Apostle Paul lived his entire life as a single man...he actually recommended singleness to all people because love gets in the way of service most of the time. It's okay to get into a relationship if you so desire, but it's also possible to live your life happily as a single person. It's entirely up to you and what you think you can handle.
11. I'm single by choice, no rush... no regrets! A wise person once told me... "One thing worse than being alone.... is Wishing you Were!"
12. Nothing is wrong. Perhaps you have not met Mr. Right yet. You can stay single as long as you want or desire to. It is normal for some to marry and others not to. Don't rush into anything like love. It's deep. consuming but the rewards can be outstanding,. if you marry the right person. Just settle back and enjoy life as you go from day today. Love will come.
13. Yes, but your still young and do u really want to spend the rest of your adult life alone without anyone to love. You obviously haven't experienced true love yet. u have to keep up your search, try online dating. It'll prove to be a challenge and anything is possible when in love.
14. You are still young! You need to be more aggressive in putting yourself into position to be noticed by men who would appreciate you! Don't give up! I'm 40 and still single. I still have hope. It can be lonely but don't judge yourself on what others get because life is not fair. If you get depressed and lock in this negative attitude...30 years will go by before you know it.
15. I am much older than you, and was single for quite awhile, at about your age. My rule of thumb is that men and women don;t really get figured out who they are, and where they want to go until their lates 20's. With Men it can be 27 or 28 or so, and with women, usually a few years younger. Kids in their early 20's are still exploring and experimenting, regardless of what they say about love. I know how it can feel lonely. But, believe it or not, you will find that right guy for you. Keep getting involved in activities that give you great joy, and you have a passion, or storng interest in. Then, find a guy who also shares that passion for the same things. Since you probably tend to meet, and be interested, or possibly date men around your own age, and they don't get their heads out of their butts until their late 20's, then you have a few years to wait until you meet the right guy when he is in the right place in his life. If you really want to meet that guy soon, then start dating guys who are older. (No, not my age, I am too old for you.) Start with around age 27, and work your way up to around 10 years older than yourself. Anything more than 13 years older, and it just probably won't work. The benefits of that older guy is that he has figured out where he wants to go with life, and is often done with being a player and trying to see how many women he can get in bed with. Often he is through with college, has paid it off, sometimes owns a house, and has dated enough women that he wants to be serious. Also, he will treat you like a queen, and is usually sexually mature enough to thing about your pleasure first, instead of his own. Now, these are broad generalizations, and don't apply to everyone. But, give it a try and see how it works. I bet that you will be with that special guy, and in love by the time you are 26. Good luck!
16. crap you are still young. you are just feeling sorry for yourself. give it time, he will come along. and sometimes you don't even have to look he's right their. just keep going on dates, you might surprise yourself. good luck
17. Well, i guess it varies with individuals. Some people find themselves content staying single. As for myself, that does not stand. I am 29 now, and have not had a serious relationship. All I have ever had yet is losers with no concept of marriage and family. I can see myself still single by age 32 but not for the rest of my life. Some day, i want to settle down and have a husband and a couple of children. I just keeping holding my head up and thinking positive and not lose hope
18. You are still young, There is no reason to be in a hurry to have a serious relationship. When the time is right, and you are ready you will then begin to puruse looking for finding someone to spend the rest of your life with. To answer your question, Yes there are people out there that are single and live a happy life. Don't worry so much about it and I am sorry that it makes you feel empty, cause according to what you wrote, you want things to be this way right now, so don't let what you see make you feel empty. Lots of luck to you! Take Care.